You guys, I’M MARRIED!!! Hence the absence on all things Ron Does Things. For the past year (and more), I’ve been happily busy planning Paul and I’s wedding. And it finally happened. AHHHHH.
I haven’t published much about us. There’s a few mentions and travel photos but never a dedicated post about our relationship. I’ve always wanted to separate my personal life from the stories I share here. Especially when it comes to Paul. We just happen to be more protective about our relationship more than anything. We even rarely share about us through our personal social media, let alone the public. So why am I opening up now? Well, we’re married now! This is my forever, you are bound to know about him. Also, because I can’t contain my happiness and love that I just need to write our story.
Grade School Crush
Our love story is my favorite story. That’s what everyone say about their story but really— if our story isn’t fate and destiny, I don’t know what is!
Back in 1st grade, I met Paul when we were just 7 years old. He then had a crush on me since 3rd grade, haha.
Uhm, please let the record show he had a crush on me first, thank you.
And well, I had a crush on him when we were in 5th grade. That I have to admit. We didn’t talk in school, because the rule is you ignore your crush until you’re at home then talk about the day over the phone. We would spend what felt like hours (were probably minutes) talking to each other through my grandparents’ landline. It was finally mutual but we were kids, so that’s not really important. Or so we thought.
7 years later and he found me on Facebook. He reconnected to everyone in grade school after migrating to the UK after 5th grade, and we began to talk to each other from Facebook to Yahoo Messenger. We caught up about our lives and whatever happened to us for the past 7 years, and THIS BOY— this boy gifted me front row tickets to my first ever concert of my most favourite band, Paramore. I still remember vividly how he said it over on Yahoo Messenger… “Oh I have the perfect gift for you, it’s thin… it’s paper.”
And I remember vividly how I told my mom. We were passing by the old bridge, and I was 2 seats away from her in our van. I said, “Remember Paul Bryan? He bought me gold tickets to Paramore.” Then I asked her to buy me plane tickets, haha! And yes, I used to call him with his 2 names. Everyone did because there were too many Pauls in our class.
I don’t recall whatever happened after Paramore. I think our conversations died down. We probably ran out of things to talk about. I didn’t even return the grand gesture, I mean— I can’t really afford anything at the time. But he notifies me he’s going home 10 years after we went separate ways.
When I had my first job, I had two offers from two different teams in the same company. I (somewhat) blindly chose a team after they tell me what each expected of me. At the time, I didn’t know the team I chose had a UK counterpart. While the other team, which I didn’t choose, had a US counterpart. This was before Paul and I reunited.
The stars aligned during that job acceptance interview and I didn’t know it. That decision rippled through the entirety of our relationship. Because that tiny decision led to me being sent to Scotland for a company trip a year after Paul and I met each other in Cebu. Months after Paul and I started our long distance relationship. That tiny decision led to some of our most memorable trips together. Scotland became a preview of what our future would look like even though he only visited during weekends. We knew, even back then, we already knew we were going to fight for our forever.
Always and Forever
While it was destiny that put us together again, we definitely worked hard to make our long distance relationship last— and that is another story to tell. We got engaged 5 years into our relationship, and this year will mark our 7th together. But who’s counting? We have forever to go.
And I quote,
“I didn’t fall in love with you. I walked into love with you, with my eyes wide open, choosing to take every step along the way.
I do believe in fate and destiny, but I also believe we are only fated to do the things that we’d choose anyway.
And I’d choose you; in a hundred lifetimes, in a hundred worlds, in any version of reality, I’d find you and I’d choose you.”
Photos by Alvin Asayas