Cosmopolitan already did it in Manila, so it was Cebu’s turn last Saturday to celebrate fun, fearless life with fun, fearless women!
Thanks to my girls at Cebu Fashion Bloggers, I was luckily invited to attend Cosmo’s event where we could have a pampering session at the Beauty & Butter booth, a cup or two of everyone’s favorite form of wake up call at Bo’s Coffee, free merch from Skin White and a look at Avida’s show rooms.
Fun and fearless girls started showing up at the Garden Bloc then it was time to start the fun, fearless night.
Fearless From Unmet Expectations, Fun in Growing Differently
Shaira Luna is probably every 90′s kid’s girl crush. I remember her name being mentioned on the television often because of her Promil advertisement featuring geniuses. I remember when she started guesting in my favorite shows. I remember my mom telling me to look up to her when news broke that she just successfully participated in a surgery as a young doctor (can’t seem to find a source for that, but that’s how it’s written in my brain). And I remember as well when she reappeared as a fashion photographer and thought, wow, “didn’t see that coming”. Well, she didn’t see that one coming, too.
She set the tone of the night as she chose comfort and sat when she started her talk. She exuded humility, eloquence and lightness all through out her story telling. I felt instantly connected with her and was glued to every word.
She’s a young genius. Her parents thought something was wrong with her when she started learning more than what girls her age would be learning. At age 3, she already had the mental capacity of a 6th grader. At age 13, she was already attending De La Salle University, taking up BS Human Biology. I know! Amazing!
But the “expected” path to being a doctor didn’t last very long. She started dropping out of classes and sneaking away to being, welp, normal; hanging out in arcades is one. After a few more life decisions and 6 years of shifting college courses multiple times, she found herself in what would become her life passion: photography. Even in photography, she also went through phases, from food to wedding to fashion which became her niche. She’s already been to different places, not only in the country, but around the world because of her photography.
Some of the covers Shaira did for Cosmopolitan.
A girl who used to read encyclopedias during weekends, dissecting animals for fun, produced her own show at 13-15 years old. The same girl who was lauded for her brain prowess to flunking Algebra in college. The same girl who then figured out photography was her calling and not to be the youngest doctor at 19. It was only evident that life is full of surprises and nothing is set in stone. Shaira’s story comforted me, assured me and inspired me at the same time. You see, I may not be a genius and I may not have the same pressure as she did but I somewhat related to how she felt. I think everyone goes through it. The existentialism, the crisis, the confusion of what we’re supposed to do here in this existence. I’m glad that she found her true love in fashion photography. Truly, a fun and fearless woman. I looked up to her when she was going to be a doctor and I look up to her now, even more, as she continue to conquer fashion photography.
Fearless of Change, Fun in Change
Our next speaker was Marla Miniano. She’s been with Candy Magazine for 9 years, and its Editor-in-Chief for 4. She’s also produced books. She had a very interesting form of talk. She had a list of 7 things she was thankful she didn’t know and another list of 3 things she was thankful she knew the whole journey.
Just like Shaira, Marla had another job in her mind when she was young. Having parents who own/manage a Montessori school, she was set to be a teacher. However, she didn’t become one. She became a writer instead. My favorite line of her talk is
“It’s okay to change your mind.”
We are pressured to become who we wanted to be at a time when we didn’t know anything, that when life happens and change is inevitable, we fear that change. We are pressured to grow but stay the same way, believe the same beliefs and love the same things that we end up not growing at all. Marla inspired me to be fearless of change.
Fearless and Fun in Your Own Body
Cosmopolitan’s very own, Myrza Sison, shared her story next. Of growing up “ugly” and figuring out how to own it. She went from being bullied to becoming a model to being a Cosmopolitan’s Editorial Director.
My most favorite part was her talking about featuring a plus-sized model and pushing body positivity. I love how the fashion industry is now evolving, albeit, slowly, into a more accepting and diverse one. People come in different body types, different heights, different shapes, different structure. But for a long time, we were taught to only revere hourglass body types.
Myrza inspired me to be fearless in my own skin. No one can really dictate who we are, how we look, what clothes we MUST wear but ourselves.
Fearless and Fun in Expressing Yourselves in #OOTDs
Kat Cruz, head and founder of STYLEDIT group, shared her styling tips with us. She’s styled numerous celebrities and have already made a name for herself in the Philippine fashion industry. She started with how to work with clothes to compliment your body type. There were 4 body types and each were discussed thoroughly, giving us examples of what we can wear to accentuate what needs to be accentuated.
It was getting late and unfortunately, we didn’t get to finish Ms. Kat’s talk. But I believe, research and the internet is your best friend when dealing with the basics of fashion. Of course, it’s not as accurate as being in a fashion course but at the very least, if you’re really interested, I suppose Google can help us. At the end of the day, we can wear whatever we want. For me, as long as we’re comfortable in it and we’re not harming anybody nor ourselves, then do as you please.
All throughout the night, drinks and snacks were handed to us. Thanks to Café Laguna, I now have ideas of what to serve guests (or just myself) during parties (not that I do parties often, LOL).
This wrap below is very similar to a Shawarma, it’s basically just a bite sized version of it, yummy! Another is a selection of bread with different toppings. I believe it was tuna (I didn’t get to try this one) and melted cheese (this one, though, oomf, so cheesy).
My Own Fearless and Fun Story (That Night)
I’ve been through a lot of struggles, pressure and existentialism but I’m not going to talk about that. Maybe some other time? What I’m about to tell you is probably one of my most embarrassing moments and it happened at this event!
The thing is, I don’t have issues with heels at all. 2 inches, 5 inches, I’m fine with them. Stiletto, wedges, platform, or block heels, I’m cool with it. I have sprinted in heels, danced in heels, walked the runway in heels, stood in a 3-hour pageant in heels. I even walked my final walk as Ms. TC with a broken, purply, sore ankle! I love heels, you guys. I hate it when they hurt, but I still love them and I’d still wear them the day after.
However, on that fateful night, I was wearing wedges but they’re the kind that narrows down at the back. I – and nobody did, so I’m not blaming anyone here -didn’t get the memo that the Garden Block will be on loose gravel. I. Struggled. I wanted to cry every time I stood up. I mean, I’ve walked on pebbled stones before and I was fine. A wrong step on those means wobbly heels which means a wobbly me. And multiple wrong steps were had. I tripped so much that flashbacks of my broken ankle started coming back. Anyhow, when we decided to go home, I made my way to the exit. I was walking with nobody but people were definitely around me. Guess what happened? I tripped thrice! Consecutively! Because I couldn’t regain my balance, I would step on a wrong patch every time. I let out squeals and had to grab my nearest co-blogger for assistance. I rushed my way to the flat pathways outside the venue, sweating and crying on the inside. My first ever event with my newly found blogging family and I experienced that in front of everyone! The horror!
A few minutes later, I started laughing at myself. Well, quite discreetly. I don’t want them thinking I’ve gone crazy, haha. But I had to be fearless and I had to see the fun in it. Yes, it was embarrassing. But we all have embarrassing moments, doesn’t mean we’re just gonna let one loose stone knock down our confidence. It was funny, in retrospect, definitely not during. But hey, I get to tell you a story we can all laugh about. Thankfully, I didn’t fall flat on my face (must be all the core yoga and leg strengthening, hmm). But imagine how I looked like, I must’ve looked real weird and contorted during those seconds. Ha!
Even the best fall down sometimes.
What I wore, next on the blog! See ya!